Should You Stay or Should You Leave?
When you’re caught between trying again and walking away, emotion can make it almost impossible to see your marriage clearly.
The Marriage Assessment helps you step back and objectively assess your relationship, understand the patterns driving distress, and determine whether there is a realistic pathway to repair – or whether separation may be the healthier way forward.
Get clear before you make one of the biggest decisions of your life.
Are you…
- Struggling to understand your partner or communicate effectively?
- Feeling disconnected or unsure about whether to continue your marriage?
- Experiencing repeated conflicts or tension that seems impossible to resolve?
- Searching for a structured way to assess and improve your relationship before making a major decision?
- Wanting practical guidance to rebuild trust, intimacy, and connection if you choose to stay?
Imagine if you could…
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See Your Relationship Clearly
Step out of the emotional overwhelm and understand what is really happening between you - the strengths, difficulties and patterns shaping your marriage, and its potential for repair.
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Understand What Would Need to Change
Identify the issues keeping you stuck, what each of you needs, and whether the willingness and capacity for meaningful change actually exist.
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Discover Whether You Can Reconnect
Explore whether trust, emotional closeness and intimacy can be rebuilt and what it would realistically take to create a healthier relationship together.
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Make a Decision You Can Trust
Move beyond the exhausting “Should I stay or should I go?” loop and make a considered decision about whether to rebuild your marriage or move forward separately.
Welcome to the Naked Marriage Assessment Program
The Marriage Assessment helps you step back and objectively assess your relationship, understand the patterns driving distress, and determine whether there is a realistic pathway to repair – or whether separation may be the healthier way forward.
Get clear before you make one of the biggest decisions of your life.
How the Assessment Works
Stepping Into Your Partner’s Shoes
When completing the assessment alone, you evaluate yourself while also imagining your partner’s perspective. Thinking about how they view things helps you gain a clearer understanding of whether your relationship is sustainable or if it might be time to end it.
Your outcome depends on many factors, including the history of your relationship, compatibility between you and your partner, and any trauma you have both experienced. If you decide to stay, the assessment will highlight what is missing, what needs to change, and challenges ahead. If the relationship is unsustainable, it will reveal imbalances or deal-breakers so you can move forward with clarity and confidence.
The Benefits of the Naked Marriage Assessment Program
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Expert Relationship Guidance
Receive insights from a Certified Relationship Coach experienced in marriage dynamics, conflict resolution, and intimacy rebuilding
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Personalized Assessment
Work one-on-one with a relationship specialist who tailors recommendations to your unique needs and circumstances
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Structured Approach
A clear framework helps you identify patterns, assess challenges, and develop actionable strategies for staying or leaving
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Risk Free
Your clarity call is free, confidential, and provides immediate guidance for your relationship
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Reputation Built on Discretion
We handle every part of your assessment with care, sensitivity, and professionalism
A Deeper Look at What Is Really Happening in Your Relationship
The Marriage Assessment goes far beyond simply asking whether you’re happy together. It brings together a series of evidence-informed assessments, relationship frameworks and structured analysis to build a detailed picture of your relationship and its potential for repair.
We explore multiple dimensions of your marriage, including:
how your individual traits, emotional styles and differences influence the way you function together.
the patterns that emerge when you disagree, become triggered or struggle to feel heard.
the strength of your friendship, affection, emotional responsiveness and connection.
how each of you responds to closeness, distance, vulnerability and relational threat.
unresolved experiences, resentment or breaches of trust that may continue to shape the relationship.
where you align, where you differ and whether important needs can realistically be negotiated.
not simply whether you want the marriage to work, but whether the conditions required for meaningful repair are actually present.
what is protecting your relationship, what is undermining it and which patterns require attention.
The Comprehensive Assessment: What’s Included
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Online Test
Complete an online test for yourself and take it on behalf of your spouse.
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Manual Test
Complete a manual test for yourself and imagine your partner’s perspective.
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Oral History Call
One semi-structured interview exploring the history of your relationship.
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Questionnaire Call
One semi-structured interview covering seven key questionnaires.
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Final Results Discussion
A third call reviewing all results and conclusions. You receive data to guide your decision about staying or leaving.
More Than a Test Score
No single questionnaire can tell you whether you should stay married or get divorced.
Your assessment brings the different pieces together to understand the relationship as a whole – identifying where the greatest difficulties lie, what remains strong, what would need to change and whether there appears to be a realistic pathway towards rebuilding the relationship.
You then receive a structured interpretation of the findings and clear recommendations for what to consider next.
The goal isn’t to tell you what decision to make. It’s to give you better information with which to make it.
Drawing on established relationship science, personality assessment and evidence-informed couples frameworks, alongside our own structured relationship analysis.
Understanding the Results:
What They Mean for Your Relationship
The assessment does not provide a simple yes or no answer. Instead, it shows what is required to save the relationship, including skills to develop, weaknesses to address, and areas to work on. Alternatively, results may reveal significant imbalances or deal-breakers, suggesting that staying in the marriage may not be sustainable.
What You Can Do After the Assessment
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Making the Tough Decision: Stay or Leave
After completing the assessment, you may realize saving the marriage requires extensive work, six to eight months or more of effort. The question becomes whether both partners are willing to commit. Alternatively, the assessment may show misalignments or deal-breakers that make staying impossible.
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Support at Every Step
No matter your decision, whether to stay and work on the relationship or to part ways, you are not alone. We provide guidance, support, and practical steps through every stage of the process.
Understand the Facts About Marriage Challenges
Source: The Gottman Institute
Source: The State of Marriage Counseling | MidAmerica Nazarene University. (2017)
Source: Journal of Marital and Family Therapy
Marriage challenges are common and not a sign of failure. Understanding these challenges and seeking clarity, support, and guidance can help couples make informed decisions about whether to stay together or part ways with confidence.
Schedule a FREE Clarity Call Now →
Get Started
There are three steps to start the Naked Marriage Assessment:
#1 Book a FREE Clarity Call
Speak with a Certified Relationship Coach to discuss your situation, ask questions, and understand how the assessment works.
#2 Do a Marriage Assessment
Complete the structured assessment, including tests, interviews, and questionnaires, to gain insight into your relationship and evaluate whether to stay or leave.
#3 Get Results and Decide
Review the final results with your coach, understand what the data shows, and receive guidance to make a confident decision about your marriage.